Today, I want to talk about self-love. So many people think self- love is selfish, uncaring towards others, but this is not the case! If you don’t love yourself, how can you love others?
I have been mentally abused since the past 20 years, it still goes on, my husband keeps on telling me that I am hopeless, mad, uncaring- The list goes on and on- For the first 18 years , I believed him completely, thinking God had made a mistake, to show the world what a loser I was, I had no confidence in myself, I felt helpless. Then, one day, I got sick and tired of being told I was not good enough, I felt I was created for a reason, God makes no mistakes- this process took 7 years, I finally accepted that I was worth it! I forgave myself for my mistakes and my confidence grew.
We all make mistakes, the first thing to do is not to take to heart if someone mentally abuses you. People see us according to their perception of us, it is not the truth! Believe in yourself, you are God’s creation, absolutely worth every thing- Forgive yourself for any mistakes you made in your past- Then, the road to healing will begin. It may take months or years, but don’t ever give up on yourself! One day, you will gain confidence in yourself, just see!We all make mistakes, it is part of being human, no need to be ashamed of yourself!
Only when you completely love yourself, you can love others fully! This has been my personal experience, All of you are capable of so much more- Never be scared to chase after your dreams, let other people say what they want to say, don’t believe them, do what you think is right for you!
If you find someone telling you that you are not good enough, detach yourself from their words, what I do is bring to mind my favourite song, or, a photo I love, I do not let negative words get to me! So, now my husband’s words do not affect me at all, in fact I kind of feel sorry for him, that even after 20 years of marriage, he does not know me at all.
I hope you all give some thought to this matter- God created you for a purpose, you have to find that purpose, only then, you will find peace.